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DEAR ABBY - March 11, 2008
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I'm Walking Here....
Here's an item (the Telescopic Walking Stick) that I never
really thought I would use. But I decided to try it out
when we went for a walk along a trail a few weeks ago.
It was fun to use.... yes I said fun. When we would come up
to a stream, I would poke at things in it. I also used it
when I wanted to venture off the beaten path, just to make
sure that there were no snakes in front of me. Believe it or
not, it made the walk more enjoyable. Check it out and the
unbelievable low price.
Normal Price: $19.99
DEAL PRICE: $8.27
Whether you're an avid hiker or just looking for a little
extra help walking around, the Telescopic Walking Stick is
just what you need. It's fully adjustable to fit your height
and the spring loaded shaft helps reduce strain on your wrists,
back, knees, legs and feet. With a built in compass it will get
you through hard rocky terrain or just across the street.
Make Walking Fun with The Walking Stick
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MOM GETS PLENTY OF SUPPORT TO KICK SONS OUT THE DOOR
ABBY: Please tell "Stressed-Out Mom," the retired woman
whose two (employed) sons, ages 22 and 24, live with her
for free (Jan. 7), that the only "mistake" she has made
was not requiring them to behave like adults before now.
Taking responsibility and being accountable are signs of
adulthood. Taking advantage of anyone, including Mom, and
being a free-loader are signs of immaturity.
-- RAISING SONS IN WHARTON, N.J.
RAISING SONS: My readers overwhelmingly agree the time has
come for "Stressed-Out's" "boys" to act like the adults
they are and stop behaving like children. If they refuse to
cooperate, then it's time for mom to show them the door --
to the real world. Read on:
ABBY: As you already know, "Stressed-Out's" problem is
nothing new to baby boomer parents. We have brought it on
ourselves.
We've enjoyed better economic times and freedom than our
parents did. Because of this, we have actually encouraged
our children to be more materialistic and irresponsible.
We haven't helped them develop skills to manage their
affairs and become responsible human beings.
If "Stressed-Out" finds it difficult to get her grown sons
to pay a minimal sum to ease her financial situation at
retirement, she should consider moving to a smaller place,
which will be less comfortable for them.
I am preparing my teenage son to become independent and
self-sufficient. I'd rather have the stress involved in
doing it now than face it later. We parents owe this to
our children and society in general.
-- INGRID D., OTTAWA, CANADA
ABBY: I, too, have an adult son who lives with me. I had
never asked him to contribute to the household expenses
until last year when I became disabled and unable to work.
He jumped at the chance to help me. He has assumed many of
the day-to-day responsibilities of running the household
and contributes half the cost of the mortgage and utilities.
There is nothing wrong with adult children enjoying the
benefits of living at home, as long as they appreciate what
they've been given and are prepared to give back when it's
their turn.
-- CHERYL M., DUBLIN, OHIO
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SUNSHINE PROJECTION NIGHT LIGHT
You have to see it in action... the ultimate cool item...
Normal Price: $12.99
DEAL PRICE: $8.99 or $15.98 for two
If you're looking for something that is very cool and very
functional check this out... The Sunshine Projection Night Light
has a built-in light sensor that turns it on automatically at
nighttime or if the room is dark, and off when there is light.
The night light projects a cool color-morphing sunshine-effect
light show on your wall! It cycle through 7 different colors
continuously, and since they use LED lighting, no heat is generated
and you WILL NEVER have to replace bulbs!
What's more is it is completely cool to the touch. These energy
saving night lights draw only a fraction of the electricity of a
4 watt bulb, and the LEDs will last up to 10 years.
Plus it has a soft glow; not too bright and not too dim. Great for
your home, office, or when you travel to add a little colorful
ambience to the room. Plugs into any standard 110v U.S. outlet.
To see a picture of this item, visit:
SUNSHINE PROJECTION NIGHT LIGHT
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ABBY: I'm writing in regard to the two adult males who
still live with their mother. She said she had recently
retired and her income has dropped by half. Her sons are
whining about having to help her pay her bills? Welcome
to reality! Those of us who have grown into adults pay
bills. We do our part. Their mom has done her job. The
time has come for them to quit being spoiled little boys
and become men.
-- TERRI T., TRENTON, N.J.
ABBY: I have some advice for that recently retired mom
who generously offered her two deadbeat sons the low
amount of $30 a week rent. Take out the following in
the local paper: "2 rooms for rent. $50 a week each.
Home cooking included. Available NOW." Then circle it,
cut it out and tape it to the fridge. When the calls
start coming, they'll be begging to pay that 30 bucks!
-- MIKE R., SANTA MONICA, CALIF.
ABBY: Should an overnight guest in someone's home remake
the bed on the day he or she is leaving, or strip off the
sheets since they are going to be washed anyway?
-- CHECKING OUT IN CANADA
CHECKING OUT: Because the sheets will have to be laundered
before the bed is made up for the next person using it,
the sheets should be stripped. But whether your host would
prefer to be the one who does it is something only he or
she can answer, so that's whom you should ask.
ABBY is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as
Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline
Phillips. Write ABBY at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box
69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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